The Five Languages of Apology and How They Work

apology

A familiar chain of events in families today is the round-a-bout argument that goes something like this: “I’m sorry.” “No, you’re not.” “I wouldn’t say it if I didn’t mean it” “Yes, you would. You say it all the time.” This is the anatomy of the typical apology; one we learned as children. We offended […]

Three Questions That Lead to Self Forgiveness

After a decade of no contact, my sixteen year old daughter lived with her father for about six months.  While I didn’t sleep a full night during that time, she seemed happy for the first three.  After that, things began to go south rather quickly, and soon, she came home, to both of our relief.  One […]

Baby Heart Revival: A Transforming Miracle

Heart filled with sunshine

The third grade daughter of a friend of mine had a hurting heart.  Childhood depression isn’t always obvious, but this little girl was very introverted, always looked ragged, and was unaffectionate and disconnected from her mother.  In fact, she would hiss at her if she tried to hug her.  Childhood depression is hard to treat […]

How to Forgive in Five Excruciating Steps

Steps to Forgivness

When I was a child, the rule was that if someone apologized for taking your toy or pulling your hair, you had to forgive them.  And generally forgiveness comes easily at five years old or perhaps being easily distracted serves the same purpose.  As a kindergarten miscreant, I stole a marshmallow Easter bunny from another […]