narcissistic abuse

  • staying home
    narcissistic abuse,  PTSD,  regret

    The Cost of Staying: Narcissistic Abuse

      The devastating cost of being in a narcissistic relationship is often brushed over as if once a person leaves such a relationship, the price is paid. Nothing could be further from the truth. An abusive marriage is a bit like a predatory loan. You will keep paying interest long after the price of the loan is paid. I wish more material existed twenty-five years ago when I debated about divorcing. I didn’t realize then that, in one sense, I was already too late. I could escape in body, but true freedom would come much later. So I thought I would put together a list of what staying with a…

  • grey rock
    abuse,  abuser,  Conflict,  Contempt,  Controlling Behaviors,  Narcissism,  narcissist,  narcissistic abuse,  narcissistic kids,  narcissists,  Sociopath

    How to Grey Rock Your Way Out of Toxic Relationships

    The most interesting thing about a grey rock is how utterly lacking in interest it is. Think of all the grey rocks you have walked past without even noticing. Turns out no one is interested in them except the occasional geologist. For the person attempting to avoid a run-in with a manipulator or anyone trying to lose the attention of a narcissist, it is inspirational. Narcissists cannot stand it when they don’t get the attention they feel they deserve. And if their victims consistently put in practice these few suggestions, they may just succeed in losing the patronage of the predator. After all, you can’t get blood from a stone,…

  • misinterpret
    Featured,  Narcissism,  narcissist,  narcissistic abuse,  narcissists

    How Narcissists Misinterpret Scripture

    Many of us misinterpret Scripture. It takes both the guidance of the Holy Spirit and serious study to figure out what the Bible is telling us and avoid misinterpretation. We all have our filters that obscure the truth, and translations are sometimes spotty at best. But the difference between a sincere Christian’s attempt to understand the Bible versus how a narcissist uses it for his or her advantage becomes apparent with a little digging. Any interpretation of the Bible that does not involve the Holy Spirit is bound to be inaccurate. But as unfortunate as that can be, the real danger lies in those who use it for their selfish…