Is Your ‘No’ Broken? Reinforcing Healthy New Boundaries

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Some people seem to have the gift of no.  Boundaries seem to come easily to them. When asked for favors, money, or permission, they hand out noes with blithe unconcern.  Others, like me, feel guilty about denying the requests, even demands of the people in their lives.  But if you are naturally compliant, suffered under […]

Lies that Keep You in a Narcissistic Marriage

Staying in a relationship with a narcissist takes a lot of commitment.  After all, the benefits of the relationship are fleeting at best, while the daily slog of being someone’s personal slave is exhausting.  I have opened up in this blog because I feel led by the Lord to tell my story as a way […]

The Five Lies a Spiritual Abuser Wants You to Believe

At thirteen years old, in eighth grade, I attended confirmation classes in my church and sang in choir, rang bells in hand bell choir, and participated in youth group.  Ardent for the Lord, I led my youth group in a twenty four hour prayer vigil.  But I was also vulnerable and awkward.  Too tall too […]

Release from Regret: Recapture your Hope

There is no regret in the kingdom of God, but that doesn’t mean we don’t struggle mightily with it.  I imagine David after the prophet, Nathan, informs him that his son from Bathsheba will die because of his sins of murder and adultery.  His chief regret, I assume, is that the consequences of his actions […]

God, Man, and Animals: A Kind of Paradise Explored

That bulls are dangerous animals is without question.  So when one attacked my friend, Mike, I was hardly surprised.  After all, I lived in Kentucky and witnessed firsthand a bull taking out the corner of a neighbor’s brick house in a frenzied rage.  When his dairy cows had acted as a unit to save his […]