The Fine Lines Between Discipline and Abuse

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Control The most important aspect of emotionally healthy, loving discipline centers around the idea of control. Discipline should be designed to give the child control, to give them a choice. Too many parents think that the control should belong to the parent, but this is wishful thinking. You draw a distinct boundary and let your child […]

Learned Helplessness, the Hebrews, and You

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The typical picture given of learned helplessness is of a hawk staying in its cage, though the door is open and it is free to soar once again. The problem with this image is that, while certainly poignant, it minimizes the actual damage that precedes the state of learned helplessness. Abuse is almost always the […]

Five Controlling Behaviors You Should Learn to Spot

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We all know people who exhibit controlling behaviors. In fact, when you mention control freaks in a group, it often elicits groans. Stories of crazy exes and former bosses start to come out. It turns afternoon special really quick. But controlling behaviors are often exhibited in everyday communications. Manipulation seems to come easier to some […]