Five Lies that Undermine Your Sense of Belonging

C.S. Lewis once commented that belonging to a group is the strongest emotional drive a human possesses. I suppose social media is just the latest arena, though I think most people have some pretty visceral memories of the popular crowd in middle school. I haven’t thought about being popular in decades but it ranked among […]

Eight Signs You are a Trustworthy Person

Finding trustworthy people these days can be difficult. I believe this is not because fewer trustworthy people exist than in previous generations, but because many of our relationships are transitory. People move around, switch jobs, and live at a furious pace. Trust takes time to incubate. Trust requires a certain amount of intimacy and transparency. […]

Lies that Keep You in a Narcissistic Marriage

Staying in a relationship with a narcissist takes a lot of commitment.  After all, the benefits of the relationship are fleeting at best, while the daily slog of being someone’s personal slave is exhausting.  I have opened up in this blog because I feel led by the Lord to tell my story as a way […]

The Five Lies a Spiritual Abuser Wants You to Believe

At thirteen years old, in eighth grade, I attended confirmation classes in my church and sang in choir, rang bells in hand bell choir, and participated in youth group.  Ardent for the Lord, I led my youth group in a twenty four hour prayer vigil.  But I was also vulnerable and awkward.  Too tall too […]