• financial abuse
    abuse,  Narcissism,  narcissistic abuse

    Financial Abuse and the Narcissist: 15 Tell Tale Signs

    I didn’t know that financial abuse existed for the first several years of my marriage. I knew, of course, that the absolute hold that my ex had over our money wasn’t right. Not until I confronted a poster about domestic violence in a public restroom in Big Bear, CA, did I realize that a name, financial abuse, existed for my agony and bondage. No one really discusses the long term effects of narcissistic financial abuse. Just when we think we are recovered, another little well of pain opens up for us to explore and drain. For me, money is one of those deeper wells. After my divorce, I found myself…

  • givers
    Featured,  Givers,  Redemptive Gifts

    The Thrifty Givers: A Study in Constant Motion

    Some of my favorite people are givers. They just seem to know how to have fun and for a sanguine exhorter like myself, fun is a necessity of life. In fact, if I could choose a redemptive gift for myself, I would have wished for that of a giver. They know how to get things done and so many of their plans come to fruition. Behaviorally, however, givers often have a hard time figuring out what their redemptive gifting really is. They don’t fit into categories easily. But like the other giftings, you can always count on one or two giveaways. The main giveaway for the givers is that they…