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How to Grey Rock Your Way Out of Toxic Relationships
The most interesting thing about a grey rock is how utterly lacking in interest it is. Think of all the grey rocks you have walked past without even noticing. Turns out no one is interested in them except the occasional geologist. For the person attempting to avoid a run-in with a manipulator or anyone trying to lose the attention of a narcissist, it is inspirational. Narcissists cannot stand it when they don’t get the attention they feel they deserve. And if their victims consistently put in practice these few suggestions, they may just succeed in losing the patronage of the predator. After all, you can’t get blood from a stone,…
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Despair: The Aim of the Abuser
Despair is not often discussed, though it is considered a dangerous psychological condition. Psychology Today describes despair as: … profound and existential hopelessness, helplessness, powerlessness, and pessimism about life and the future. Despair is a deep discouragement and loss of faith about one’s ability to find meaning, fulfillment, and happiness, to create a satisfactory future for oneself. The goal of an abuser is to produce the elements of despair in another person. In speaking with the victims of this abuse and having suffered as one myself, I am always surprised at how difficult it is to admit to the intentionality of emotional abuse. Victims often invent excuses for their…
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The Concept of Narcissism in the Bible: Part 1
The concept of narcissism was called out by Paul long before Psychology sank its teeth into the idea as a personality disorder. But having just created a list of fifteen narcissistic traits, I thought I would see how Paul did it. And it strikes me as very interesting that Paul says these men would surface in the last days. NPD, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, didn’t make it into the DSM until 1980. Paul nailed it sometime in the first century. I am just going to go one by one and look deeply at the concept of narcissism according to Paul. I find it very instructional and somewhat painful, as my…
