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    The Spiritual Benefits of Wandering

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    I am an expert in wandering, I think. My husband and I have now moved seven times in as many years. Some were choices we made; others were thrust upon us. I have lived in seven states and am now starting my journey to Alaska. My husband dreamed of moving to Alaska as a young boy. He couldn’t bear to return a book on the subject to the library as a young boy. He kept it hidden in the bushes for months until finally the mildew and slugs decimated it. For him, our ten-day trek through Canada and Alaska is…

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    Five Ways Narcissists Use Cognitive Dissonance

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    Cognitive dissonance occurs when we hold conflicting beliefs at the same time. The results of trying to balance two competing beliefs in one’s mind are often confusion, shame, guilt, and second-guessing one’s self. Cognitive dissonance can cause physical damage as well as it is stressful both mentally and physically. A lowered immune system, raised blood pressure, as well as a host of other symptoms can afflict the sufferer. Life and circumstances often cause some cognitive dissonance. For instance, we know that a particular purchase is not within our budget. We really want this purchase and so we argue with ourselves,…

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    How to Find Your Why

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    All successful salespeople recognize the importance of the why. After all, one must have a powerful why in order to make cold calls that result in rejection far more often than not. I often ask my students why they are in college. And a few have an answer. Most just shrug their shoulders and when pressed, admit that they are there because either they have nothing else to do with their lives or because their parents made them. Sometimes students enroll in college, enter into debt, and then flunk out, simply because their why was weak or worse, nonexistent. Finding…