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Five Ways to Contend for Your Recovery from Trauma
Recovery from extended abuse is measured over a lifetime, though often it comes in fits and spurts. Revelations and aha moments come to those who are looking for them. I am often amused by the ‘unpopular opinion’ memes, but tonight I find myself holding one of my very own. More people avoid recovery than seek it. The world is filled with people who do not have the opportunity or means to heal, whether from extreme poverty, isolation, or even a lack of any spiritual or mental health resources. But this is not true of most people with whom I come into regular contact. And I get it. Confronting the…
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Four Ways We Gaslight Ourselves after Abuse
By now, most people realize that to gaslight someone is to attempt to separate them from a core belief in themselves and their reality. In a genuine gaslighting situation, an abuser will often say things like Are you sure that is how it happened? I don’t remember it that way. Or perhaps it will go like this: I think you took my words just a little too seriously. You are just too sensitive and don’t know how to take a joke. In extreme situations, the abuser suggests that something is really wrong with the victim, that they need professional help. I am pretty familiar with this phenomenon because my narcissistic ex…
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Traits of Narcissists: 12 More According to Paul
The various traits of narcissists as told by Paul is so extensive it is taking two full blogs to cover the list. I am going to attempt to list twelve of the traits that I missed in my first post. I consider these traits of narcissists as important as the first list. ( see here) I suppose that the first time I read 2 Timothy 3, I was too enmeshed in an abusive system to really understand the moral weight of it. Later, I read it without really understanding the term, narcissist, but began to see the correlations between what I suffered at the hands of my ex and the…
Healing Through Art & Words
