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    Betrayal Trauma: Why It Hurts the Worst

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    Betrayal comes in many different forms and the damage from each is often long-lasting. Breaking trust creates ripples that affect whole generations of people in the areas of culture, relationship, and communication. Future relationships can be undermined before they even begin when the foundations of trust become fractured. Individual recovery is not done alone in the case of betrayal trauma and if safe people cannot be found, recovery may not even be accomplished. What Betrayal Looks Like Betrayal trauma happens when a person or institution causes great harm to an individual or group of people, betraying the sacred nature of…

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    How God Healed 1 Narcissist in the Bible

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    I often get asked if God can heal a narcissist. My answer is sometimes hard for people to accept. When I say that narcissists don’t change, I mean it. The pushback I often get is that all things are possible with God, even a narcissist being healed. So in this post, I want to qualify my answer about whether narcissists change and what God can or will do about it. But before we talk about anyone being healed, I first have to define a few things. Narcissistic behavior differs from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We all have had times where we…

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    Anxiety - Emotion - emotional health - False Refuges - Identity - Shame & Guilt

    Shame Free: Taking off the Invisibility Cloak

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    Anyone who spends a good amount of time longing for invisibility has a struggle with shame and/or anxiety on their hands. I should know. I still occasionally wish that I could slip through life unnoticed. Invisibility can seem so safe, especially for a survivor of abuse.  Whenever conflict rears its ugly head, my mind and body still kick into flight mode. Some people are fighters and launch themselves into the fray. Others, like myself, turn to invisibility to minimize the attention of those around us. We freeze like the bunny wondering if the wolf has caught its scent. I want…