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How to Model Emotional Intimacy for Your Children
Emotional intimacy is a term usually reserved for couples. In reality, emotional intimacy is a skill that we learn by observing our parents and by practicing with close friends as we mature. Many parents are careful to withhold any conflicts or even affection from each other in front of their kids. I suppose the reasoning is that somehow children should be insulated from the adult world, free from its worries and problems. To some extent, I agree. After all, children should not be asked to carry the heavy baggage of adulthood. The baggage of childhood is heavy enough. I never understood why we romanticize childhood. It has its own agonies.…
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How to Protect Your Family’s Honor
The idea of family honor is pretty old-fashioned, and in its older forms, even harmful. Family honor in the past consisted of creating a family mask that presented one face to the world while hiding dysfunctions within. But cultivating a culture of honor, real honor is actually crucial for creating a lasting marriage and familial relationships that are fulfilling. Family honor is not about the face presented to the world. Real honor is how well the members of a family treat each other. Honor is the act of valuing a person over things. When someone honks their horn at you rudely in traffic, or cuts in front of you in…
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How Self-Examination Can Save Your Life
Self-examination is the study of one’s habits, thoughts, and motivations. Most of us are too busy these days to stop and do some careful soul-searching. And why would we? The number of distractions luring us to far more immediately rewarding activities has never been higher. But if you are like me, you have a list of things you would like to accomplish, habits you would like to drop, and maybe some old losses you would like to resolve. Self-examination does not have to be so arduous. In fact, it can become a habit. The danger of foregoing this particular self-discipline is not dissimilar to the dangers faced by those with…
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