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Blame: Toxic Love Killer
How does the blame game start? Picture this: we set out on a family trip and realize we forgot some essential item. So naturally, the first step is to figure out who was responsible for bringing that item. After all, it is crucial to establish whose fault the forgotten item is. Or is it? Then we grudgingly turn around, and our attitude punishes the forgetful member of the party. Finally, justice is served, and the trip is ruined. In Matthew 16, the disciples discover that they had forgotten to bring any bread on the trip. In what seems like a somewhat non sequitur response, Jesus warns them against the leaven…
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Intimacy with God: 4 Touchstones
Intimacy with God is often written about and far less often achieved. I have sometimes found myself tempted to apologize for my relationship with God. People have, at times, told me that they have tried and tried to have a relationship with God. Somehow it never works out for them. They believe that God only speaks to some people regularly. I feel pressured for an explanation. I never know what to say to that. At least not to their faces. I know that God wants to have a relationship with anyone willing to have one with Him. He says so in the Bible, often enough. “Ask, and it will be…
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Six Toxic Responses to Boundaries
Toxic people dislike boundaries the way my cats hate a closed door. They figure it is their right to come and go as they please. The ripped up carpet and scratches on my door attest to their utter determination to have their way. The cats, that is. Toxic people usually damage far more than just a rug and a couple of doors. I suppose learning how to erect healthy boundaries always includes a learning curve. I, for one, did not anticipate the ruthlessness and perseverance with which toxic people attempt to discredit, tear down, and generally disrespect boundaries. But I have learned to spot the usual toxic strategies. I can’t…
Healing Through Art & Words
