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Eight Signs You Need Counseling
Just the word, counseling, often has a negative effect on people, I have noticed. If you want to cause a defensive reaction in someone, suggest gently and without any judgment, they would benefit from counseling. Immediately they hear only something is wrong with me. Then wait for the litany of various reasons why counseling will not work or has not worked in the past. Counseling is too expensive, time-consuming, and doesn’t help them. They know someone who went to counseling and boy, did that counselor mess them up. I have even heard the excuse that God, as our Wonderful Counselor, did not endorse other counseling, despite the many verses in…
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Narcissistic Marriage: The Five Lies That Bind
Staying in a narcissistic relationship takes a lot of commitment. After all, the benefits of the relationship are fleeting at best, while the daily slog of being someone’s personal slave is exhausting. I have opened up in this blog because I feel led by the Lord to tell my story as a way of owning it. And one of the most difficult things about admitting to my past is that I am generally perceived as a competent, even gifted, woman. People ask, without meaning to hurt me, “How did you get trapped in such a circumstance?” The truth is that narcissists often target intelligent, strong women. Where’s the challenge, otherwise?…
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The Happiness Manipulator: Codependent Christianity
One of my greatest strengths lies in my ability to lay down my own desires in order to make someone else happy. One of my greatest weaknesses lies in the fact that I am willing to give up my desires in order to make someone else happy. A bit of a paradox, that. You see, I am a happiness manipulator. We are used to seeing manipulation in a particularly virulent form on the dramas on television. Characters lie and set up situations in order to gain power, wealth, whatever. But me, I just want you to be happy. And if you are not happy, then I will go to great…
Healing Through Art & Words
