The Art of Contentment: This Present Life

Contentment is a radical choice these days. Our culture is consumer based which means that the world continually reminds us of what we do not have. We follow wealthy celebrities in part to experience wealth vicariously. We almost always believe we could handle it better than the shallow but beautiful people who live out their […]

Eight Signs of Spiritual Maturity… I’m Pretty Sure

Spiritual maturity is impossible to measure. I know. I have tried. When I worked for a small Christian liberal arts university, we wanted to test whether our student gained anything from all the spiritual formation groups, Bible courses, and chapels. I heard that other Christian schools were trying to develop similar rubrics, but I never […]

Five Ways to Avoid Raising Narcissistic Kids

Narcissistic kids

Disclaimer: This article is not about how to prevent your child from becoming a narcissist. Narcissistic Personality Disorder starts early in life and is often a defense mechanism against chronic neglect and emotional or physical abuse. We all have narcissistic tendencies, however, that need to be dealt with so that we become healthy, whole people. […]

Is Your ‘No’ Broken? Reinforcing Healthy New Boundaries

broken boundaries

Some people seem to have the gift of no.  Boundaries seem to come easily to them. When asked for favors, money, or permission, they hand out noes with blithe unconcern.  Others, like me, feel guilty about denying the requests, even demands of the people in their lives.  But if you are naturally compliant, suffered under […]